Years ago I did a course on hypnotherapy and actually qualified to be a hypnotherapist, one of the first things we were taught is how we communicate. 38% tone voice modulation 55% body movements, facial expressions, arm gestures etc and only 7% of the way we communicate comes down to words.
So when it comes to learning the truth your eyes are far more important than your ears.
Years ago I asked a question on FB "what is easier to fake love or lust?" and was genuinely amazed that many people argued lust was easier to fake. I think many people would like to believe that but I don't see how it is possible to fake lust, one of my mates summed it up best when he said "how the hell do you fake a hard on?" lust is visual your eyes don't lie. Words on the other hand, it is easy to lie with words, you can tell anyone you love them.
We are living in strange times, where people can see things going on, yet an authority figure or those in the media can describe something completely different is happening and people choose to believe the words, rather than what they can actually see taking place.
It is strange isn't it? I am sure we have all been in relationships, where everything we see points to something being wrong but we choose to believe our partners re-assuring words. Many have been in a situation where at their core they know their partner is cheating on them but when the person denies it we accept it as that is what we want to believe.
There must have been a time in the development of humans where our earliest ancestors did not have language, we did not have words, I think they must have been far more honest times. Make no mistake without words they could still have been able to communicate, it would just have been on a different level. A level that we have lost touch with or maybe more accurately, lost trust in. Many times we sit with close friends, partners, family members and instinctively know what they are thinking. We can share private jokes convey thoughts just with a look our a gesture.
The other one that fascinates me is how we communicate with our pets, we develop a deep emotional connection a connection that in my own case has always felt pure and uncomplicated, in many cases words detract from that purity within human relationships. Trust me pet owners know what there pets are thinking, just as pets are aware of what their humans are thinking, now how does that work? I find it amazing.
I am never quite sure how many people get to see my posts but some of you know I am currently writing a novel about my late dog Eddie, honestly his death and life affected me so much. Our connection was so strong, he couldn't speak a word yet he managed to make me feel more loved than any other living thing ever has.
So with regards to how us humans communicate, how difficult would it be to lie and mislead without the use of words?
It is funny isn't when it comes to truth many times it is our ears that blind us, our desire to believe the words of others when their actions are giving out a totally different message.
I have always felt we should trust our eyes and our feelings our gut instincts much more than we do but from my own experience I feel that probably makes life harder, especially in my case, when it comes to human relationships. Having said that I do have some very good friends and I have shared time and experiences with some lovely people.
It would be fascinating to do a Big Brother type experiment where you lock a group of people in a house for a period of time and see how they get on if they cannot use spoken or written words.
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